Let it go...


I take no prisoners and am blatantly honest. While some people consider that to be a wonderful thing….it can be a curse. Now imagine not being a model or trophy like wife. As I’ve stated I have my own demons but I get by with awesome support from close friends I love more than family. After all, who doesn’t have something they would like to change about themselves? I think secretly we all do, I don’t care if you are a guy or a girl…no one is one hundred percent happy with themselves. If they were…plastic surgeons and the diet and health industry wouldn’t be as profitable as it is today. So, back to my original thought, I do not think I am a model or trophy wife…but what I am is an honest person who has lived through hell and am still standing at the end of the day. I am sure most single parents know exactly where I am coming from. So, staying on topic…can you imagine finding out that your spouse told his ex that she was unattractive because she was too heavy? And by definition I mean a size 14 or so.

I know everyone says that beauty is only skin deep and when a person is a monster on the inside their outside fades as well….however, bear with me here. So I hear that. I also hear his dad’s girlfriend commenting how fat his daughter got in college and how they couldn’t recognize her. As I write this I also think to myself about how shallow people can truly be. But then the straw that broke the camel’s back comes back to haunt me and I am advised that my now father-in-law had advised my husband that he should date around and wanted to set him up with an attorney and an accountant. Are we seeing this? He knows we are living together and yet insists he date other women who are thin and make lots of money and have no kids. Oh and did I mention more suited to his age?

So now I sit here and wonder what it is I did to make this man advise that and more so tell my husband that our relationship will not last. That was four years ago. Well we lasted. We have problems like most couples but we work through them and shockingly enough….guess where they stem from? Yup…you guessed it the in-laws.

I mention these things to illustrate what a shallow and thin world we truly live in. I cannot say I blame them because…well my own family isn’t any better, but you have to wonder what the issue is with these people. And all those trying to make things better and get their significant others to love them or accept them are truly wasting precious energy. Why? I am a firm believer that if someone and I mean anyone humiliates you in any way shape or form they do not deserve you and ties need to be cut. I am slowly but surely learning that fact…although I have known as I am sure most people have known that to be true we as individuals seem to need a slap in the face before we make a move. My last straw was this past summer. What will it take you?

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