Soulmates or Lust
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
As everyone knows, I have fallen madly and deeply in love with what I would easily call my soulmate. In admitting and coming to terms with this aspect, I have learned some interesting things about myself and that very emotion. First of all, love and pain do go hand in hand. The pain, also in the form of fear has nearly crippled me. I was reserved to walk away because the man I love made me face parts of myself I wasn’t ready to. I had nearly convinced myself that I wasn’t ready for a relationship, along with every other excuse in the book. Luckily, I have learned to temper myself and not speak when I know I cannot be rational due to other emotions at the time. So I sat in angry silence and contemplated.
As most of you have figured out, we had a fight. My fear of losing my heart, the man I was so in love with had sent me into a tailspin and into silence. While I hate fights I will admit that this last one he and I had was awesome. Why? No, not because I have lost my mind or gone off the deep end, but because the pain overtook the love and I realized what was important to me and how much I truly love this individual. He is so entwined and in my heart that losing him, I would lose a part of me. I also realized that our relationship is much more than dating and intimacy. Those two aspects are a mere shell of what’s truly important. Looking back, I lost a lot of things in life and I would give it all up willing for the greatest gift in the world…love. A love that is beyond measure and Id rather give up my life than lose it. Once I realized that fact and let go of the hurt feeling, an ocean of love washed over me and my mood brightened immediately.
No human being is without fault or flaw. We can either embrace their faults and love them unconditionally or point a finger and judge and complain. I think if we cannot love someone’s faults, let them go. There are no maybes in love, only certainty. I can only attest and be sure of one thing…that I unconditionally love him without doubt. Nothing anyone says or does will alter that love because it comes from a deep place that is without doubt, materialism or conditions.
The ability to love someone openly and without judgment while still being able to tell each other anything is a relationship worth cherishing. It is not always a perfect fairytale where one never argues, but it is solid in love, and yes cliché or not love is enough to get one through, if it is real. An argument in a relationship even passion fueled is healthy and needed. Needed to make us realize what we love and why we don’t want to lose it. It strengthens your bond, opens your heart and makes you hold on tighter. It gives you a reason to fight.
So, after this point in our relationship I am left with a few truths. My heart goes out to people that never truly experience the kind of love I have been blessed to have. There are very few people that actually find it and keep it. It tests who you are to the max and forces you to be a better person than you were. I like the person I am and am constantly challenged to be better. When you meet the right person…the other half of your soul, money and materialistic things don’t matter. If he walked up to my door and said I lost everything but the clothes on my back…my response would be a smile and a comforting hug. It is never about what he can do for me, it is always about what I can do for him. It becomes a belief, a whole new way of life and breath and thought where what you want, need or desire is of no consequence, it becomes about the other person.
Look at your relationships today and ask yourself what's more important....your needs or theirs. You must be willing to give yourself to your partner and he/she must do the same without question. If the person in your life is there because you are bored, or being single makes you look bad then please let them go. If you truly love the person then love them with everything you've got. Love them with all your heart, , mind...give yourself to them completely. Most importantly remember they are their own person, the one you fell in love with...not the person you hope they will become or because they happen to be your ex. Be kind and loving and treat them like you would want to be treated.
As everyone knows, I have fallen madly and deeply in love with what I would easily call my soulmate. In admitting and coming to terms with this aspect, I have learned some interesting things about myself and that very emotion. First of all, love and pain do go hand in hand. The pain, also in the form of fear has nearly crippled me. I was reserved to walk away because the man I love made me face parts of myself I wasn’t ready to. I had nearly convinced myself that I wasn’t ready for a relationship, along with every other excuse in the book. Luckily, I have learned to temper myself and not speak when I know I cannot be rational due to other emotions at the time. So I sat in angry silence and contemplated.
As most of you have figured out, we had a fight. My fear of losing my heart, the man I was so in love with had sent me into a tailspin and into silence. While I hate fights I will admit that this last one he and I had was awesome. Why? No, not because I have lost my mind or gone off the deep end, but because the pain overtook the love and I realized what was important to me and how much I truly love this individual. He is so entwined and in my heart that losing him, I would lose a part of me. I also realized that our relationship is much more than dating and intimacy. Those two aspects are a mere shell of what’s truly important. Looking back, I lost a lot of things in life and I would give it all up willing for the greatest gift in the world…love. A love that is beyond measure and Id rather give up my life than lose it. Once I realized that fact and let go of the hurt feeling, an ocean of love washed over me and my mood brightened immediately.
No human being is without fault or flaw. We can either embrace their faults and love them unconditionally or point a finger and judge and complain. I think if we cannot love someone’s faults, let them go. There are no maybes in love, only certainty. I can only attest and be sure of one thing…that I unconditionally love him without doubt. Nothing anyone says or does will alter that love because it comes from a deep place that is without doubt, materialism or conditions.
The ability to love someone openly and without judgment while still being able to tell each other anything is a relationship worth cherishing. It is not always a perfect fairytale where one never argues, but it is solid in love, and yes cliché or not love is enough to get one through, if it is real. An argument in a relationship even passion fueled is healthy and needed. Needed to make us realize what we love and why we don’t want to lose it. It strengthens your bond, opens your heart and makes you hold on tighter. It gives you a reason to fight.
So, after this point in our relationship I am left with a few truths. My heart goes out to people that never truly experience the kind of love I have been blessed to have. There are very few people that actually find it and keep it. It tests who you are to the max and forces you to be a better person than you were. I like the person I am and am constantly challenged to be better. When you meet the right person…the other half of your soul, money and materialistic things don’t matter. If he walked up to my door and said I lost everything but the clothes on my back…my response would be a smile and a comforting hug. It is never about what he can do for me, it is always about what I can do for him. It becomes a belief, a whole new way of life and breath and thought where what you want, need or desire is of no consequence, it becomes about the other person.
Look at your relationships today and ask yourself what's more important....your needs or theirs. You must be willing to give yourself to your partner and he/she must do the same without question. If the person in your life is there because you are bored, or being single makes you look bad then please let them go. If you truly love the person then love them with everything you've got. Love them with all your heart, , mind...give yourself to them completely. Most importantly remember they are their own person, the one you fell in love with...not the person you hope they will become or because they happen to be your ex. Be kind and loving and treat them like you would want to be treated.
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