Conditions

The relationships we have with one another are amazing and yet so very shallow. In the normal course of dealing with people, I have realized something which I consider to be very profound. A friend of mine made a comment to me that we are loved completely by our significant others. I am not so sure that I believe that to the core of my being. I don’t say this to be cruel or mean as one would think. Here is food for thought….

We as individuals are trapped in a world that is materialistically all encompassing. In our professional lives we strive greatly to achieve the great ladder of success. Although this ladder and its height varies from person to person, the desire remains the same. Where is our humility and compassion towards one another when we try to step and climb all over each other and push each other down constantly? Why exactly do we do this? We do this for the simple fact of achieving materialistic things such as title or wealth…none of which will transcend the boundaries of life and death. When someone is on their death bed, when do we remember that person for how much they make or what title they had in their careers? Last few funerals, my father’s inclusive, that was the last thing on my mind.

In a relationship, we tend to not listen to our hearts but rather decide what we can do for each other. Women think rather shallowly. Let’s face it a woman’s main concern is can the man take care of me and will he make a good dad? Men on the other hand, think of what kind of arm candy will the person make? Will my ego be boosted with this person by my side? While I do not think for one minute that every person is like this, by majority we are trained that way. We are raised with these considerations in mind.

These thoughts being taken in consideration heavily, how then can we turn around and say that we love our significant others unselfishly and unconditionally? Who would lay their life down for another without thought to his or her own well being or without question? Sadly enough I would say, not very many of us today. I cannot honestly say that most would think in this way. How can we know when and how true your love is? What happens when you lose your looks or you lose your job? Will the other who professed their undying, yet conditionally selfish love still be there when the sun comes up? This fact I am lucky enough to not experience or deal with, however, it is a concern for all those around me, the world as a whole.