Hypocrisy
Anger seethes through my veins. While I do not pretend to be the
perfect Christian, follow all dogma and live a perfect life I am enraged that
some who call themselves just that practice the complete opposite. That phrase
holds very little meaning in today’s Christian communities. I have seen more
negativity, back turning and stabbing in today’s proverbial Christians than I
do in those around me that profess to be Agnostic. It is truly sad that we
can’t as humans get together for one another when in need, but then to have the
audacity to label yourself a follower and true believer in Christ makes my
blood boil.
As I sit her writing, I almost don’t know where to start. Listening to
the radio while running errands I was tuned into a talk show. The kind that you
call in and get advice. Today’s topic was Christianity and our believe system
in that. I was floored at some of these calls. One in particular stood out. A
woman had called in stated that she was married with 2 children and a devout
Christian. The kind that goes to church every Sunday, although it is out of
mere task. The type that sit in church and stare blankly while their to-do list
is running through their minds. They never hear a word or have a message touch
them, so let’s just go with the fact they certainly do not practice the
teachings. How can they? They haven’t heard them. This woman is complaining that
her younger sister had a child out of wedlock. Apparently this was a grievous
act against the family. However, as she stated the family as a unit forgave her
and accepted her and her child. The issue at hand was the fact the sister was
having child number 2. At this point she was engaged to the father of both
children, but had not been married as yet and would not by the time the child
was born. Well, this is the most heinous act anyone could commit. It was ok for
it to happen once, but twice was completely unacceptable. The advice seeker was
questioning what exactly she should do considering she was very mad at her sister
for performing such vile acts and wasn’t sure if as a unit they should disown
her. I was floored that this question was even entertained. I’ll be honest, if
it were me I would have hung up as my advice. Yes, I would have placed the
phone on the hook.
First, as a devout Christian your job is forgiveness. Secondly, this
child, like any other is a blessing. Last but certainly not least, I don’t ever
remember reading anything in the Bible that said Christ left certain people in
charge of the world to judge in his place. Truly. How dare we judge others
before ourselves? When I was little my grandmother use to use a phrase that
went something like this “don’t be too busy worrying about your neighbors yard,
while yours looks like a dump”. Now I never got that…until now. I used to think
it was just funny, but after listening to this woman on the radio, I found
myself understanding the meaning of that phrase. In almost a year, I hadn’t
lost my temper but today I was resolute to go through the radio and choke this
self proclaimed Christian.
I fully understand and grasp that faith is personal. Everyone out there
has their own system of belief whether it was instilled in family or researched
as an adult. Either way what one believes in is their own. I whole heartedly
stand by that statement. However, to have the audacity to call yourself
Christian and do everything that is not Christian just turns my stomach and
makes me want to scream. I, as a Christian, strongly believe that each
individual’s relationship with God is very different and very personal. The
stages of their spiritual journey also vary in timing and length, however,
there are some solid foundational blocks that all Christians share; being able
to forgive, love especially in not keeping a record of wrongs, and not being
judgmental. Basic as these may seem I am floored that so many have such a hard
time with them. I struggle daily within my own faith and yes I kick and scream
constantly not wanting to do and learn certain lessons; however, to even contemplate
turning my back on a family member because they did not “follow some warped
guideline on how a perfect life should be” is simply ridiculous.
I know I am still angry and trying desperately to calm down at this
point, but the issue brings up so many questions and raises so many flags.
Hypocrisy knows no bounds, no religion, no gender. It is a silent killer of
compassion within humanity today. I have lost some faith in my fellow
Christians and am not completely sure there is ever a fix or some magic words
to fix it….I can only pray that they read the same version of the Bible the
rest of us do and actually read it with comprehension and a deep level of
thought.
If I have offended anyone, I apologize….but being offended here makes
one wonder what makes you take something like this as offensive, unless you
feel the guilt of a past wrong. Introspect and allow guidance.
Comments
I can say though that I have seen hypocracy in other religions as well, not just Christianity.
I have been so inspired by my friend, Terry, and now you, that I decided to buy another Bible (I had long since lost my other ones). This time, I will read it with an open heart and ask questions for better understanding instead of having someone else dictate to me what the Bible says.
I am far from perfect, but I would never oust a family member for an out-of-wedlock child. That's fundamentally wrong.
Thank you
Thank goodness He does have compassion for humanity, I'd be terrified to think what would happen otherwise.
This particular case, as you said, is fundamentally wrong. I would have slammed the person regardless. They just happen to flaunt their reasoning or rather excuse.
I am glad you are inspired. While I am a firm believer in not pushing one's religion and/or beliefs on anyone else I think at the very least I have found profound awakening in reading the Bible even with an open mind when my own heart was not ready to hear it.
I have learned to reign it in more and only spew acid here and there :)
I still have tempered anger.